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WHAAAAT!!!
Your head is too big for what? To wear your own hair naturally? Nah boo. Your head is too big from all of that ignorant crap people been tellin' you about your hair.
Ugh, iCan't.
It is free at youtube. 6 parts including an update from London, England.
It explores the Korean Take-over of the Black Beauty Supply and Hair biz..
The current situation makes it hard to believe that Madame C.J. Walker once ran the whole thing.
I am not a hater, I am a motivator.
Plus I am a White guy who stumbled upon this, and felt it was so wrong I had to make a film about it.
self-funded film, made from the heart.
Can it be taken back?
Link
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p96aaTSdrAE
I've got braids in (well kinky twists) and i'm getting the Oh you look so ethnic today.... blank stare
I wish I could tell you friend that conforming hurts more than just being yourself.
I went to India Arie's concert and you know what..she said i wish someone would have told me when i as 13 with damaged ends from a perm that I wuold get a standing ovation for being bald headed.
"this above all: to thine own self be true"
To hell with the stares. You kno? Hell yeah, I look ethnic and? Whatam I supposed to look like?
I have yet to get negative comments. correction..my dad said he hated it. I told him that he'll get over it. other than that, no issues.
It sucks when something like that can cause people so much worry. my heart goes out to your friend. I can only imagine what negative comments can do.
She can always come back with "My hair is healthier this way and SUCK IT" LOL
How's that for a returned response to any of the above statements?
i've noticed that wytes really don't care either way, but AAs/blks are sometimes the ones who have a problem with it.
my hair is super thick and quite curly, so it does take a little bit of effort to find the best products/tools for my specific hair type. but it's worth it.
i really like the style where the hair is just braided on either side. i'ma rock my hair like that when it grows out longer.
http://tinyurl.com/nxfqqh
With the few irritating exceptions, I've actually had far more positive reactions than negative. I don't know how the co-worker thought it would be a mistake, but being natural is not a thing I will ever regret, regardless...it feels way better to be comfortable in ones own skin than trying to impersonate something that can never really be achieved.
My response: "I need to comb my hair? It's a mistake? God just screwed me over. But, I'd rather have my hair than your stupidity. That can't be fixed..."
I have to commend you on the pride you exhibit with reference to your natural hair. For some it proves difficult because it is said that "every mother has the power to make her daughter feel beautiful", and while I believe that's true, when you see television, magazines, and the like and everything deemed "beautiful" contrasts you 100%, it erases everything you were told about being "pretty", "adorable", "gorgeous". Unfortunately, that is the state of some us to that point that with confidence destroyed, it's difficult to find beauty in anything that's other than: "light", "straight", "pure". It's all very conditioning and follows for many years after the damage was done.
On another note, I was feeling very vindictive one day on my way to school. As I approached the bus stop with my beautiful braids all style up with twists in the front and a nice ponytail to connect that hairdo, I found myself being stared at by an Asian woman. She made no qualms about staring, so I made no qualms about my statement to her. She stood there with straight, lifeless hair hanging down her back and I turned to her (while she was staring) and said: "Wow, how hard is it that you can't really do anything with your hair but wear it straight?" Her whole demeanor changed. I could feel her shift. She responded: "Can 'you guys' do a lot with your hair?" I told her, "oh yes, these braids can be styled several different ways, I can take the braids out and wear my hair straight, wavy, curly, whatever I choose to do with it. And the best part is that we don't have to wash our hair every day either". Our bus pulled up about 10 minutes later, but she was already turned in another direction long before the bus pulled up.
Had she said something like "I really like you hair" or "your hair is really pretty", or something other than stare like I was from another planet, my reaction to her would have been immensely different. Yet, in this setting, I didn't quite know how to take the stare and gave her every opportunity to say something - all 6 times that I caught her staring.
I mean, Damn!
I am amazed at how willing black people are to throw dirt on their natural hair texture.
Generally when people say something ignorant about my hair I dismiss it with a simple ,"oh well,this is how it grows out of my head. i like it" and refuse to discuss it further. I try to sigh as if I am very weary as well, like I am humoring a troublesome child. I would love to be enough of a bitch to pick something that person would be sensitive about and comment on that. "Yeah, you're right my hair would look better straight. But tell me, what are you going to do about that ugly nose/big head/large feet/mole/man hands/jacked up teeth/small penis? I think you would look better if you fixed that."